The Final Goodbye

Gosh….It seems like I am writing sumthin after ages…(well it actually has been over 4 months I guess)….Probably cos I m either running short of ideas (neither any stories nor anything interesting happenin in lyf – as usual) or mebbe cos hav become so addicted to watchin Friends (now reached season 5) / movies on the PC (saw raat gayi baat gayi sum tym bak) that I don’t get much of a free time to sit and write…..And its after a long long tym that I am awake at 3.00 a.m so finally decided to giv it a try….
On the personal front, the only update has been in terms of my driving and purchasing a car…decided to buy a second hand Zen after a lot of deliberations and well the start to it wasn’t all that grt bumping the car against the neighbours wall (fortunately or unfortunately…only the car got a lil damaged)….anyways got a driving instructor to teach me and after 15 days of drivin lessons and 1 drive alone to my worli office on a holiday I was beginning to think that there wouldn’t be any further crashes….oops but that was not to be….now for the incident in detail:

28/01/10 10.30 p.m- Decided to go for a drive and things were going smooth till I reached a check point manned by the traffice police….i was trying to work my way behind an Innova (I think) which swiftly made its way between the road block on the right and the vehicles on the left…but I guess I wasn’t too lucky with a truck coming from the left which got behind the Innova and to be fair to the truck driver, he showed me his hand asking me to stop…and I had no clue wat I was thinking when I was trying to make my way into a non existent gap between the truck and the block…Bang.,,,the car crashed into the truck…luckily I was driving close to 0 and being a check point so was the truck…anyways the truck driver stopped…gave me a stare….got down…started complainin sayin I was askin u to stop…I just decided to keep my mouth shut (golden tip – in such situations when u kno its ur mistake – keep mum and have a sorry+guilty look on ur face – don’t worry that luk comes automatically – generally have observed that in such cases the other person mutters sumthing n then goes ahead – cant guarantee this thou)…anyways the traffic police had to move the road block for me to give side to the truck to move ahead (aah too embarrassing – and well this was not over yet)…the truck moved ahead and the traffic policeman asked me to halt the car onto a side…After asking for my license..he asked me to step down….there were few more policemen standing next to a jeep on the left….the guy who took my license said “check karma padega”
I asked “kya checking?” when he said “ drink and drive ke liye….alcohol test lena padega” Since I don’t drink, I thought I could manage an escape here without any fine or sumthing…thankfully the traffic guy was quite friendly asking questions about my background etc and was quick to spot that I had just learnt driving….i was asked to blow air into a handheld device which I did…but 1 of the traffic guy dint seem happy with the result…he said “aapne barabar nahi kiya…jaise balloon mein hawa bharte waise bharo…saans jaldi nahi chhodne ka” for a moment I got a bit scared thinking if that was an effort to extract money out of me…anyways I did as instructed and thankfully this tym he din complain….the friendly cop then returned my license and after some words of encouragement and drive slowly/safely tips, he finally let me go…after dat reached bak safely but that was sum experience….anyways just thought it was a better idea to give my parents a shorter version of just the brush against truck avoiding the mention of traffic police and alcoholic test………..whoa I finished writing 1 full page and now for the snippet (decided to continue with a conversational one as I guess its easier to write and also the feedback that it is interesting to read)…..

The Final Goodbye:

Neha: Hi…wassup?
Aniket: hey wat took u so long? I have been waiting for the last half an hour…
Neha: well take a guess
Aniket: Meeting prospective bridegrooms?
Neha: no points for guessing that…
Aniket: hmmm …so now whens your meeting with next guy in line?
Neha: well I guess no more meetings now….
Aniket: what? U givin up so soon? Come on some one or the other will surely like u
Neha: very funny….
Aniket: u mean u found someone?
Neha: well I guess so
Aniket (looking disapopointed): oh who? The same software guy from US?
Neha: Yup…met him yesterday again…seems to be a nice guy….his parents had come today and they are quite interested in taking this forward….and so are my parents,,,,,,
Aniket: and what about u? u liked the guy?
Neha: yea as I said…nice guy…decent salary…well settled…seems to be the best pick among the guys I have met so far,,,,
Aniket: yea but u can wait for some more tym…u mite get a better guy….
Neha: no don’t think so and don’t see any point in waiting further…
Aniket: why such a hurry all of a sudden
Neha: well I ll have to decide some day or the other…and this one seems to be a good relationship…but y r u getting so upset?
Aniket: what do u mean y? u know wat this means to our relationship rgt – a goodbye forever.
Neha: yea but we always knew that rgt…before even beginning to date, we had mutually decided that rgt…the relationship will be only till 1 of us meets his/her life partner…this was always going to be a short term one…
Aniket: yea I kno but,,,
Neha: and I had already told u my parents were looking out for a match for me…
Aniket: Yes but I dint expect this to happen so soon….i jus din expect dat u wud be dumping me so soon
Neha: hey don’t say like that,,,,we will always be friends…by the way u only keep saying that love marriages between 2 ppl from diff regional background don’t really work…and u wud prefer marrying someone who belonged to ur caste
Aniket: yea but I said that long back when we had just started dating…things have changed a bit from then….
Neha: and how?
Aniket: ever since u tol me abt meeting future prospects I have realized that my feelings for you were much stronger than I thought….
Neha: hmmm…but then theres no future here rgt….forget my case, u urself have told me that u will never go against ur parents wishes and ur parents would never want a North Indian Non vegetarian girl to be their daughter-in-law…
Aniket: I agree I have..but cant we just give it a thought…I m sure we can work things out…I really love u and I thought u did too…
Neha: well I do….but
Aniket: No buts just tell me if you are with me on this….
Neha: ok but when can u speak to ur parents….
Aniket: They will be back in the next 2days,,,I will speak to them and try convincing them…I really don’t wanna lose you….when do u have to reply to that US guy…
Neha: which US guy?
Aniket: What????? Don’t temme…O gosh u scared me…
Neha (smilingly): well I just wanted u to realize this before its too late….
Aniket: hmm…so we have time now…
Neha: hey don’t forget….my parents are still looking out……
Aniket: ofcourse I ll speak to my parents as soon as they are back…..
Neha: ok then …bye m getting late..
Aniket: thank God…it isn’t the final goodbye….luv u….
Neha: luv u too……

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I love you. It's not a weight you must carry around. I love you. It's not a box that holds you in. I love you. It's not a standard you have to bear. I love you. It's not a sacrifice I make. I love you. It's not a pedestal you are frozen upon. I love you. It's not an expectation of perfection. I love you. It's not my life's whole purpose (or your's). I love you. It's not to make you change. I love you. It's not even to make you love me. I love you. It's as pure and simple as that. -Anonymous
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